Day 49

Try not looking back. You may have the urge to look up your ex.. especially with all this social media, but don't do it. It will stir up all the swirling emotions. In the Bible there is a very famous context my pastor always uses which is... "Remember Lot's wife" The scripture (Luke 17:32-33  "Remember Lot’s Wife. If you Cling to your Life, you will Lose it, & if you let your Life go, you will Save it.") Talks about consequences of looking back.

Day 48

Pray. Ask God to help restore you and heal you so that you wont become bitter in the future. Ask him to send you the type of mate that you need. And also ask him to help you develop in the areas that you lack to prevent this happening again. Prayer stirs up hope. It gives you an expectation of better times to come. I would encourage you to go often into prayer when you are experiencing pain and sadness.

Day 47

Do not ignore reality. Be honest with yourself, and when you can begin to muster be honest with others too. Unless your spouse has died and you able to cover up your marital issues with that, this subject is one that you will not be able to ignore or hide. you will have to accept it at some point. I'm trying to be mature through the process. I cant ignore that my ex existed.. he is and will always be part of my past. My main focus is trying to move forward and be successful. I don't choose to paint him as an evil creature. After all there was a point in which we both willingly chose to marry each other. I was committed to him, and I loved him. I think it is the epitome to totally slander your ex spouse just because you have experienced hard times... after all they are a reflection of you at some point of your life.. no one held a gun to your head and made you get married.

Day 46

Live your dreams. Now is the time to do all the things that you have been putting off. Think about it. The time invested in your marriage is lost. You will have to do double time to get yourself properly positioned. Don't hesitate.If you still have dreams to find love and have a family.. don't spend too much time grieving. Just remember you have one life, and don't squander it harboring hurtful situations or disappointments.

Day 45

You will understand the meaning of bitterness, anger, confusion, and anxiousness. When men approach you, you will instinctively want to know what they want.. you will have flashbacks.. you will feel the anger and resentment, but please do not let your past hinder you. Success is the best answer to any hardship you have faced. I am determined to find happiness in this area of my life.

Day 44

There are definitely two sides to the story of your divorce. I think that when you assess your side of things you can began to heal. The fact of the matter is that neither one of you just woke up one morning with a broken marriage. And realistically, there are not many problems that cant be fixed. I believe that with compromise and love anything can be sorted if both parties involved are willing. For me, I am taking an ariel view at my life so that I can improve myself. I did things that did not grow my marriage. I did childish things to inflict pain because I was in pain. I hold 50% of the responsibility, but so does he. 

Day 43

Relations with your spouses family: It can remain good at least for the moment based on their diplomacy. Or they can take his side and become your enemies. Naturally If you have children that are close with his side, this whole thing can be super tricky. Due to the fact most of my exes family is spread out in other states and his parents live abroad, I had limited contacts with them anyway. Sadly. I believe that perhaps they could have had more of an impact on him if they were closer, as they know him better than I ever did. I also attribute the fact to him being away from the social expectations of his home has made him more liberal to  pursue a divorce. I know for a fact if we lived abroad... this whole story would have happened differently.