Day 49

Try not looking back. You may have the urge to look up your ex.. especially with all this social media, but don't do it. It will stir up all the swirling emotions. In the Bible there is a very famous context my pastor always uses which is... "Remember Lot's wife" The scripture (Luke 17:32-33  "Remember Lot’s Wife. If you Cling to your Life, you will Lose it, & if you let your Life go, you will Save it.") Talks about consequences of looking back.

Day 48

Pray. Ask God to help restore you and heal you so that you wont become bitter in the future. Ask him to send you the type of mate that you need. And also ask him to help you develop in the areas that you lack to prevent this happening again. Prayer stirs up hope. It gives you an expectation of better times to come. I would encourage you to go often into prayer when you are experiencing pain and sadness.

Day 47

Do not ignore reality. Be honest with yourself, and when you can begin to muster be honest with others too. Unless your spouse has died and you able to cover up your marital issues with that, this subject is one that you will not be able to ignore or hide. you will have to accept it at some point. I'm trying to be mature through the process. I cant ignore that my ex existed.. he is and will always be part of my past. My main focus is trying to move forward and be successful. I don't choose to paint him as an evil creature. After all there was a point in which we both willingly chose to marry each other. I was committed to him, and I loved him. I think it is the epitome to totally slander your ex spouse just because you have experienced hard times... after all they are a reflection of you at some point of your life.. no one held a gun to your head and made you get married.

Day 46

Live your dreams. Now is the time to do all the things that you have been putting off. Think about it. The time invested in your marriage is lost. You will have to do double time to get yourself properly positioned. Don't hesitate.If you still have dreams to find love and have a family.. don't spend too much time grieving. Just remember you have one life, and don't squander it harboring hurtful situations or disappointments.