I think its important to began moving on towards your future as soon as you possibly can. For me this includes: ordering my finances,getting on track with God, dating again and going back to school. I have spared no time in that. I will be starting an online school next month and as I mentioned in one of my other posts, I have begun dating. I think that in many, many cases our spouses leave us because they seem to look at us as a burden, they seem to rationalize that their life will be better without us. Based on the way my ex speaks to me... I have come to this conclusion in my specific situation. I will use his doubts as motivation to move forward aggressively. I refuse to let him ever see me in a negative light, ever. I know a former divorced woman that never realized this truth, and her best days were when she was married. Her ex continued on to do big things, but she never rebounded professionally or personally after.For some reason my ex thinks I will never go any further without him... He is sadly mistaken. I can understand his misguided perception somewhat because during the course of our marriage whilst he strategically made individual moves to better himself, I focused more on us as a unit, and neglected my own progress. However, I am ambitious, and that is something that resonates from my past as well as my future. Nonetheless, I think the faster you delve into bettering yourself, the faster you heal.
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