Day 52

Stay very very prayerful. This is a very vulnerable time for you and your family. Do not turn to drugs, alcohol or any other dangerous path for relief.. it will cause even more trouble in the long run. I turn to exercercise, karaoke, roller skating and quality time with friends. I express my feelings, cry if neccesary, pray and get it out. I have candid prayers with the Lord about my heart, my pain and my victory. I ask him to intercede, and most importantly to restore me.

Day 51

I never imagined being single after I took those vows. It has been tough to stomach, but I have too accept. The one thing that life and adulthood have taught me is that you have to be ready for anything. Personally, I am a very meticulous person and try hard to plan, but in life sometimes because of the connections we establish with others; we never know the path that life will take us. I also feel that wallowing is a waste of time because no amount of it can change the reality, therefore efforts are best utilized if they are used to pursue newer thing and people after a setback has occurred.

Day 50

Let revenge be the Lords. I know you will be tempted to lash out at your spouse. After all they hurt you, they took your time, they lied and broke their commitment.. etc the list goes on and on. However, revenge is the Lord's. Let him serve them in the best possible way. In my case my ex has abandoned me, dashed my dreams and broken his promises to me. He also is probably making up things against me to try to justify his choice. Sometimes i get so angry when I think of things.

Day 49

Try not looking back. You may have the urge to look up your ex.. especially with all this social media, but don't do it. It will stir up all the swirling emotions. In the Bible there is a very famous context my pastor always uses which is... "Remember Lot's wife" The scripture (Luke 17:32-33  "Remember Lot’s Wife. If you Cling to your Life, you will Lose it, & if you let your Life go, you will Save it.") Talks about consequences of looking back.

Day 48

Pray. Ask God to help restore you and heal you so that you wont become bitter in the future. Ask him to send you the type of mate that you need. And also ask him to help you develop in the areas that you lack to prevent this happening again. Prayer stirs up hope. It gives you an expectation of better times to come. I would encourage you to go often into prayer when you are experiencing pain and sadness.

Day 47

Do not ignore reality. Be honest with yourself, and when you can begin to muster be honest with others too. Unless your spouse has died and you able to cover up your marital issues with that, this subject is one that you will not be able to ignore or hide. you will have to accept it at some point. I'm trying to be mature through the process. I cant ignore that my ex existed.. he is and will always be part of my past. My main focus is trying to move forward and be successful. I don't choose to paint him as an evil creature. After all there was a point in which we both willingly chose to marry each other. I was committed to him, and I loved him. I think it is the epitome to totally slander your ex spouse just because you have experienced hard times... after all they are a reflection of you at some point of your life.. no one held a gun to your head and made you get married.

Day 46

Live your dreams. Now is the time to do all the things that you have been putting off. Think about it. The time invested in your marriage is lost. You will have to do double time to get yourself properly positioned. Don't hesitate.If you still have dreams to find love and have a family.. don't spend too much time grieving. Just remember you have one life, and don't squander it harboring hurtful situations or disappointments.